2 Timothy 1: 5 I am reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice and, I am persuaded, now lives in you also. 6 For this reason I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God, which is in you through the laying on of my hands. 7 For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.
A few weeks ago, one of my besties texted me a photo of an invitation she received several years ago. My friend still had somewhere in all of her possessions, an invitation that had come from me that was sent via mail to several of our girlfriends at the time. Apparently, I created and mailed out an invitation to a “Girlfriend’s Shower.”
I created this concept of a shower (much like a bridal or baby shower) where we, as the girlfriends, would shower one another with gifts, celebrating our friendship. Nope, I am not kidding. I even had a cake made.
I present to you Exhibit A as proof (the invitation).
Not only did the invitation and its wording make me laugh, it took me down memory lane to that night at Carrabba’s Restaurant. I won’t share all of what I put in the invite, but let’s just say I made it clear that:
- Their attendance made them game and their non attendance made them lame (yep, that’s on the cover).
- The ladies needed to bring their own money to pay for their meal because, and I quote myself, “This is not sponsored!”
- The color scheme was black/red and jeans were not allowed to be worn. If anyone asked “Do we have to wear red/black? And what happens when we don’t?”- I had a reply ready!! I informed them (and I quote myself again)
- “For those who will ask and I know who you are, YES, YOU DO. And if you don’t – you will look like a reject! Thanks Hun! J”
Looking back, I can actually say that I am trying to figure out why anyone showed up. I was completely brutal in my instructions towards the attendees and demanded that they attend/obey. (Obviously they liked me, because they did.)
Although the outcome was nice, I can also say that this was the first and the last “Girlfriends Shower.”
Besides my laughing and wondering “What in the world?!, I was also wondering “When did I have the time to plan this, let alone make an invitation? How in the world would I have come up with that idea? My words were a little cross, but the idea…great!”
Might I too mention that my friend on this very same day, also texted me a photo of the business card of the event planning business we and another friend almost started together (ok, started, but didn’t finish … LOL). Again, I kept thinking: “I did that? When did I have the time? How in the world would I have come up with that idea and/or agreed to it?” Furthermore,
Where did this person go? Where is she?
Somewhere, over the years, that person (me) who did these creative things and planned these meetings/outings began to take a back seat to a lot of stuff. Some things flourished while others didn’t. “She” would resurface here and there when needed for special causes, but not routinely. What happened?
This “she” I refer to myself as, should have been like Timothy in the scriptures – keeping my gift stirred up. When you use your gifts, you stir them up, and when you stir them up, you also increase them. But unfortunately and for various reasons, I stopped using many of my gifts, therefore letting the fire die out. Many of those gifts that I used consistently eventually got pushed aside and pushed down. Many of those gifts have yet to be used to their fullest potential.
Paul, in 2 Timothy, when referring to a gift, uses the words “fan into flame”, but in other translations, it says to “stir up” or even “rekindle.” The gifts that I had been given (and you also) are like fires – burning and should not be put out. Paul wanted to remind Timothy to develop his gift and not let it go to waste. In order for Timothy to be a teacher of others, he himself had to be on fire.
But what happens when you see the fire dying down and you don’t know if it’s because you’ve lost your ability or if it’s because you aren’t using it? It could be both.
Hmmmmm. Worth meditating on.
- If there’s an area of your life where you want to operate in a specific gifting that you have (more often), that you know you are suited for, why are you not doing it?
- Have there been things you have been interested in and thoroughly enjoyed, but over a period of time, you have stopped doing them? If so, why?
- Based on your responses to the above, how have your skills been affected? Anything you need to brush up on? Is there a fire you need to rekindle?
Meditate on those questions and check back next week to see how you can tell when God is stirring up a gift on the inside of you!